DATING BE BEATING YALL ASS
The streets are the streets. I grew up around it. I’ve seen family and friends do what they do in the streets but I never attempted to make sense of the streets because it’s the streets. I’d drive myself crazy trying to understand why people don’t have morals, ethics, or honor in the streets. I look at dating the same way.
People call dating “the streets” but I just look at it for what it is. I’m not a complicated nigga when it comes to dating. I guess you could say I’m naive because of the way I look at dating. Dating is like trying on clothes. If the shit don’t fit me the way I want it to fit me I put the clothes back on the fucking rack and go about my business. I’ve been done wrong before. I’ve had things that didn’t work out but I just accept it and move forward. I’m not about to make sense of a situation that’s no longer in play. I’d drive myself crazy trying to figure out why people do certain things.
I don’t complain. I don’t ask why. What’s for me is for me. If it ain’t for me then it’s none of my concern. The reason I move like that is because dating has always been a low priority in my life. I wish this was the mindset for the rest of these mothafuckas out here but sadly……
DATING BE BEATING YALL ASS!!!!
Everything is centered around dating in our community and it’s the sickest shit I’ve ever seen. Niggas whole personality trait is dating. When the last time you seen niggas talk about science? Never nigga, but I bet you seen these grown ass adults argue about bills on podcasts. Nigga why in the fuck would I want to talk about bills in my spare time? I don’t pay my bills on time for a fucking reason. It’s because I don’t feel like hearing about that shit. Nobody knows about laws. Nobody knows about food and health. Nigga teach me about consciousness. All these weirdos know is hookah, goofy ass brunch hats and dating debates.
If I hear the term “What you bring to the table” one more fucking time I swear I’m uppercutting niggas. This imaginary table has single handedly destroyed our community like crack. Unless you know how to physically build a table with real wood I don’t wanna hear shit out your mouth about a table. Nigga you have a $50 card table from Walmart in your home. Sit this one out chief. Niggas can’t even change a fucking tire but talking bout what should be brought to the table. You haven’t bought new drawls and socks in 2 years talking about tables. Go blow up your air mattress and quit playing in my face. Niggas use hand lotion on their face and have the audacity to give advice. Amazing.
There’s more to life than dating. Dating is not the only thing going on in the world and it damn sure nowhere near the most important thing in the world. You notice the majority of people who are obsessed with dating or consuming dating content always are broke? The energy needs to be directed towards gaining multiple income, not multiple dates.
There’s people who pray for a relationship. Like really pray for that shit and it’s weird to me. It’s weird because they’ll pray for a relationship before they’ll pray for themselves. You having mental breakdowns on a weekly basis but you praying for a nigga to write a caption about on social media. Bitch are you serious? You on your knees praying for a nigga that has a higher probability of adding more stress to your life. Make it make sense. Blood pressure high as shit but you praying for a bitch to go bowling with? Niggas aint got no money but worried about a relationship. Nigga are you high?
I pray for change in my life. Change for the better. If I change for the better as a man then the blessings come. I’m not praying for material objects. I’m not praying for a woman to come into my life. I pray to be a better man than I was the day before. It is the top priority. I love Allah first. I’m a man second. Period. Everything else falls where it’s supposed to when I focus on these 2 things.
Have you ever seen those people that only go out just for the sole purpose of hoping they find a man or woman? They can’t just go out to have fun, they have to make it about finding candidates for a future relationship. People are so thirsty for a relationship that they put imaginary relationships and their hunt for a relationship before having fun. It’s the lamest shit ever. When I go out all I’m thinking about is a drink menu, the DJ, debating if I should do shrooms, and what I’m eating to end my night. I am not on the hunt for shit. I can run into women anywhere. Who gives a fuck.
Dating is so fucking simple but people create these mental gymnastics, imaginary rules, bullshit hypothetical scenarios, and make shit harder than it need to be. These weirdos literally make terms and conditions for dating. Why are yall like this?
You like me. I like you. Do you want to be in a relationship? Simple.
This may sound extreme but have you seen a white person that’s delusional about racism and how and why racism exists? That’s how a lot of black people are about dating. They have the most delusional mindset when it comes to dating.
People can’t even let people know they like them without making it complex. The fuck is there to think about? Ask them out on a date and be done with it. It’s either a yes or no and you move accordingly. Why are yall making shit so childish and complex? The fuck are you throwing out hints for? What kinda goofy shit is that? If you're hungry you just go get something to eat right? You don’t overthink it, you just go get something to eat. You don’t give yourself hints. This aint blues clues. Get to the point.
How you telling a shorty that she need to fuck with a “real nigga” but you can’t be upfront with your intentions? You can’t even tell her “I don’t want to be in a relationship, I just want to fuck.” Everybody is real until it’s time to show reality. This society is built on wasting time. Just say what you want upfront and you’ll either get it or move closer to someone who wants to give you what you want.
Dating is fun to me. Relationships are fun to me. No matter if I’m single or in a relationship I’m having fun. I prioritize having a good time and if you’re around me I’m positive you will have a good time too. The reason you see all these goofy dating topics is because it’s about power and the struggle for power. It’s not about respect or doing right by people. It’s about control, it’s about seeing how much people can get away with, it’s more transactional, it’s all based on ego. People aren’t concerned about love. They’re concerned about impressing other people.
If you gotta find love then you don’t understand love and more importantly you don’t understand self. Love isn’t something that’s meant to be hunted. You hunt prey. Love is attracted, not hunted.
Dating be beating yall ass and yall need to start fighting the fuck back. Learn to enjoy your own company and learn patience. You’ll get a lot further than you think.
Love, Benny
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