WHAT ABOUT THEIR DREAMS?
The answer is I work with my friends and I care about their dreams. It’s that simple.
I know you didn’t hear or see the question but after all the congratulations I’ve received due to recent events in my life, questions always follow. It doesn’t bother me. I like questions. Curiosity is underrated.
After our first event as a podcast the most asked question before I even grabbed the microphone that night at Profield Reserve was how Polite Coolery (My podcast) works together so well?
I give a fuck about their dreams and we’re really friends. A lot of situations in life bring people and all walks of life together. You can succeed with the most random group of people but often you see things fall apart because a friendship was not nurtured. What good is having success with someone who you don’t really like or doesn’t really care for you?
How free could you be if the people you’re doing the 1% with, you don’t really like or have resentment towards? Your friends are apart of your freedom. It’s no coincidence that you’re the most free flowing around your friends. You’re the most honest around your friends. You do dumb shit around your friends. You do smart shit around your friends. They see the most authentic version of you even more than your blood relatives.
Here’s where a lot of us get it fucked up at with our friends in creative partnerships or relationships. We don’t really care about our friends dreams. Each dream a member of your team has is a piece of a key to the overall team goal. You have to either incorporate their dream into the overall team goal or talk about and assist in their dream as much as possible.
Think about why you don’t give a fuck about a job. Your time is spent building someone else shit that you wouldn’t care if it came crashing down at your feet. You may not like your co workers or bosses. You put up with it cause you have to pay rent. Okay, cool. I understand.
Think about that same job. What if your boss asked you about your dreams outside of work every time you clocked in to that job? What if he/she/they offered resources to you that would help you make your dream your reality? Yeah the job would still be trash but you have an emotional investment in the job because of the selflessness of your boss. If you ever work for someone the best boss to have is the one that talks to you and not AT you and encourages you to quit that job even if you’re exceptional at it. They know that you’re short changing yourself and the best version of yourself is beyond that job.
If you give a fuck about what they do outside of what they do for you, you’re going to get the best out of them.
This is my way of thinking when I work with any of my friends. How can we ALL benefit outside of what we’re working on together? For example Polite Coolery is my podcast that was created from my blog you’re reading now PoliteAsFlannels. How can Benny (Me), Cue, Marty, and Moe benefit from the podcast?
I’m a writer. When the podcast gets to a global level I could get a bunch of publishing deals to write books. Marty could get huge photography deals. Moe could get a cooking show. Cue could get an opportunity to score a movie. Polite Coolery is the spring board for all of our dreams. Yes we will become the greatest podcast ever and we all have that goal but that’s not all of our lives. We have other passions as well.
This works so well because of that mindset and the fact that they’re really my friends. Way before a podcast existed. I work with my real friends. I always tell myself that I never want to be in a situation where I have to convince myself to like someone I work with. Any form of “convincing” in my line of work is bad. If I have to convince myself it’s good then that’s bad. If I have to convince people to like what I create then it’s bad. Convincing shouldn’t be your focus. Cultivating should be your focus.
Seeing and hearing about my friends dreams is fun. If it’s not fun then there’s no point.
If you’re working towards something with your friends always ask yourself “What about their dreams?”
Peace
Benny
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