GIVING IS THE MOVE

One day I sat back and thought about who came up with the concept of “I scratch your back and you scratch mine.” I seriously thought about why people give something that something had to be given to them in return. When did the return become the focus?

It’s all greed. Some ego but the center of it is greed. 

The more I’m blessed to walk the earth the more I realize that giving is the biggest blessing that we have access to. Literally the easiest access. We never use the gift of giving unless we get a return. Here’s the thing though. Giving isn’t an investment. It should never be looked at that way. Giving is the foundation of kindness. Kindness is giving without expectation. I didn’t see the power of giving until I felt the power and light it provided me. 

There were moments where I could’ve disrespected people because they had me fucked up but I chose to keep giving respect regardless of what they gave to me. Now let’s not get shit confused. If people disrespect me I’ll remove myself for that person safety and for my peace of mind but I won’t go out my way to disrespect them to the world.

I know you hear “You gotta give respect to get respect” but what if I never tripped off getting it? What if I just give respect because it’s the right thing to do and it’s where my character resides? I give respect without worrying what I get in return. What I get in return for my respect is none of my business that’s the person I’m giving the respect to business. 

If I decide to give someone a feature on my platforms whether it’s my podcast Polite Coolery or this blog you’re reading PoliteAsFlannels, I’m never thinking about the return. I’m never thinking about what it does to me. I’m never thinking about how many followers they have and clicks I’d get because I interviewed or covered this person. I’m not thinking about shares, retweets, or buys. I put them on my platforms because I like what they’ve put back into the universe creatively and spiritually. Do I expect them to share what I do? Nope. Do I care? Nope. Do I want something from them in return? Nope. I didn’t do it for that. That’s not giving. If I give with expectation of something in return that’s not giving. That’s a transaction, regardless if money is exchanged or not. Lemme put on my hotep hat and talk like a Thanos meme real quick. 

Life is give and take. Every relationship is based on that at its core. The universe operates on give and take. The giver and the receiver. If you want blessings you have to give blessings. The easiest way to get what you want in life is to help others get what they want in life. You want a Rolex? Help someone else get a Rolex. The goal as the giver is to make the receiver happy to receive what you gave them. If the giver is happy to give to the receiver is happy to accept what was given then good energy is put into he universe and the abundance of good things will continue to circulate in not only your world but those around you. The more you give the more good energy flow is constant. When you don’t give your flow of energy is stagnant. You create a traffic jam in your life. 

Whether you are happy to give and make the receiver happy is based on the most important part of giving. INTENTION!

Why are you giving? Why did you give this person money, time, prayers, a compliment, the list goes on. Was it for you? Did you truly do it for them? Is it because you believe hey would do the same? The intention in the giving tells you everything you need to know about someone. A person who’s happy to give is likely a person you would accept in your space. If you feel happiness in giving without return then happiness will occupy your life easier than the average human. 

If you feel like you lost something when you gave it then it wasn’t given and the circulation of energy is disrupted. If you feel like you’re taking a risk giving something then it’s not truly an act of giving. If you’re always reminding people what you gave them then it’s not really giving because you didn’t want them to have it in the first place. Once I give you something it’s yours. What I gave has nothing to do with me anymore because it’s in the receivers possession. It’s like a quarterback throwing a pass to a receiver. Once it’s in the receivers hands it’s up to the receiver to get as many yards as they can after they receive the pass from the quarterback. Once you’re given a blessing it’s up to you as the receiver to accept the blessing and give to someone else. 

So if I gave you $20 every month and one day you decide to not be my friend anymore the average human will think “How could you do this after all I’ve done for you financially” which is real because you’re hurt but it sounds like you were buying a friendship. What if despite the money you gave you weren’t the best friend or your former friend just wasn’t a good person? Your focus should be on the quality of what makes a good friend not the money you gave in the past. Again, once what you give leaves your possession it is no longer your concern. There’s no score to keep unless you don’t believe in the gesture or don’t believe in the person you’re giving it to. 

Giving to yourself is very important also. Don’t forget to give to yourself and don’t spread yourself too thin. It’s vital that you put life force back into your heart so you don’t feel fatigue. There’s someone who may read this and gives a lot everyday but feel hopeless. Giving includes yourself too. Give yourself the proper love to keep your spirit lifted. 

Everyday do your best to give something to someone. It doesn’t have to be material things. It can be a a prayer. A compliment. Sharing something. Kind gestures. Simple but effective because they lead to more kind things in the world. You’ll look at life different if you decide to give everyday. Remember, if it doesn’t multiply after it’s given then it’s not worth being given or received. Think about it. 

Peace

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