YOU GOT IT

I was always tell people that it takes 3 things for me to argue with you. I have to love you. I have to respect you. I have to trust you. If you have 2 outta the 3 that’s fine too. But the bottom line is that I don’t argue or debate with people I don’t know. What the fuck is all the talk bout? I don’t know you so you don’t know where I’m coming from and this not gonna get us nowhere. 

We always see the same statement about social media and how it has pros and cons. I like social media from the aspect that it’s exposing a lot of people. I see who’s homophobic. I see who’s racist. I see who support despicable actions. I just peep game and I don’t interact with those people. There’s no need to discuss shit. Like I said above. What the fuck is all the talk bout? Now people say dumb shit everyday. Intelligent people say dumb shit. People who aren’t intelligent say dumb shit. Nobody is exempt from saying dumb shit. That’s not the issue. The issue is that people not willing to say “Aye I was wrong and I apologize.” People dodge admitting they were wrong like deadbeat fathers dodging condoms. People would win the argument in their world by embarrassing people and insulting them or getting the last word than actually being right. You know a mothafucka don’t know what they talking about if they try to resort to fighting. That’s somebody who’s run out of ideas and looking for a way out. Acting out on their ignorance is their idea of winning an argument. Okay you won the argument. What’s next? I’ll tell you what’s next. You carry on with even more ignorance than you began with. 

The majority of the people you argue with daily on social media don’t argue to gain a different perspective. They argue because they don’t wanna change and they don’t seek understanding. If growth not the endgame then what’s the purpose of us interacting? 

The reason why I don’t argue over technology is because people can’t see my face. People are likely to assume my emotions when I argue with them over social media. I don’t want any assumptions about me and I don’t wanna assume anything about anybody else. Just because I’m not adding “LOL” on the end of everything I type don’t mean I’m ultra serious or not smiling. A lot of people use “lol” behind everything to save face and that’s not an assumption you can literally feel that and some admit to that. I like to see people body language and face when they argue with me. 

Remember on the internet you’re arguing with people who don’t seek perspective. That’s dangerous and a waste of time. They don’t want a solution. They’re not open minded. They argue for acceptance and confusion. They hope that someone thinks and feels the same fucked up way. In their mind they feel that they’re an outlier or a rebel when in reality they’re just lost. They don’t wanna change because what the believe is right is apart of who they are. Their fucked up views are their identity. If they admit that they’re wrong for having fucked up or ignorant views then that means they’re admitting that they’re a fucked up person and that’s hard for people to accept. So instead of accepting it and admitting they’re wrong they’re going to double down on their fucked up views and make themselves look worst. 

We are in an age where it’s all about the rebuttal. It’s about how fast can we reply to the argument than actually sitting with what was said and breaking it down unbiasedly. Fuck trying to win the argument. Does the person on the opposite side of the fence have a point and am I willing to admit it? Arguing and disagreements linger because of our egos and stubbornness. So many things can be solved if people just admit when they’re wrong and admit when other people are right. But it’s about how quick can we reply. How witty can we reply. Fuck the reply. Ask yourself “Are they making a point?” “Am I learning something?” It’s not about being fast. 

Let’s pretend I was a teenager or young adult when Janet Jackson’s “Control” album came out. I went to the store and bought the vinyl. I got to my residence and I placed the record on my vinyl player and I let the record play to it’s entirety. The only people I can tell how I feel about the record are the people in my household. I would have to work to spread my views. If I want to spread my opinion I have to either call people and tell them or go outside and see people to tell them about my opinion of the record. Back then I had to actually sit with my thoughts and really question if that’s how I really feel. I had time to actually marinate with my thoughts and see if anything changed. Today I can hear an album at 11:01pm on Thursday and give you my opinion song by song on social media to hundreds or thousands of people in mere seconds. I’m not forced to sit with it. You don’t have to wait to express your opinion. Arguing works the same way. No one lets anything marinate. Nobody is capable of critical thinking. They just respond as fast as possible and want to win the argument in a childish manner no matter the cost. 

Everything doesn’t require a response. I promise you the world will be okay without you responding to every topic that appears. Actually nobody gives a fuck. I think people who argue everyday with people on the internet underestimate how difficult it is to change a person mind or way of thinking which is exactly why I said I only argue with people I trust, love, and respect. I know without a doubt if we argue, critical thinking will be involved and we’re open to different perspectives and seeing every angle of the subject we’re talking about. The percentage of us walking away with our minds changed is very high. Arguing with people you don’t know rarely ends like that. It’s up to the people you arguing with to change. No amount of facts or opinions mean shit if the person has their mind made up to never change their perspective. All that arguing shit with strangers ain’t healthy. It’s stupid to lend your time and intellect to someone who don’t care to receive and never will care to receive it. You end up looking stupid in the end. 

The only way to win an argument or debate is if you came out of the argument a better human than you did going into it. Think about that before engaging with anyone on the internet.

It’s not hard to say “You got it” and keep it moving. Let em learn the hard way and let em think they got it and let em find out they don’t got it in the real world. That’s none of your business. 

Peace 

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